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Long Term Goals

Hi everyone!

My holiday has gone by so quickly…I only have have one more week to myself. It has been the most amazing time to unwind and gather my thoughts. Sometimes all you need is a good break from the noise to gain perspective.

I love this quote by one of the most successful and self-made women of our time – Oprah Winfrey. “Do what you HAVE to do until you can do what you WANT to do”.

It speaks of long term term goals, dedication and patience. Have you ever thought about where you would like to be in the next five years? I am all for ‘living in the now’. But for motivational purposes, it does help to have a vision in your mind. Do you want to be a millionaire by the time you’re forty? Or perhaps purchase your own home?

Like me, most people have a nine to five job. You may love it or loathe it. Be that as it may…it is where you are right now. Some of us would like to do something totally different with our lives. Realistically though, it is not always possible to simply give up the security of a stable income to pursue your dreams. We have bills to pay, families to take care of. I have some personal thoughts on how to achieve long term goals. The three most important things I try keep top of mind are:

1. Gratitude

2. Positivity

3. Play with your spare time

If you adopt these, you assign a purpose to your life – and learn to be grateful and make the most of your immediate resources. You can sit in the same gloomy job for the next five years…moan and do nothing. Or you could use that time to formulate a plan, and use your role as a positive contribution to the company you are working for, as well as society. Keep a tight grip on your financial situation and budget, save money, start a new program at the office – lend your skills.

Most importantly, utilize every bit of spare time you have to do what you love. Take the dance or painting class. Sign up for that small business course! They are all small stepping stones to get you closer to your destination.

I hope that the new week brings you fresh ideas and renewed energy. Thank you for reading!

Love always,

Kashiefa

xoxo

Goodbye 2015! And thank you…

Having faced a myriad of challenges this year…I can say that I have survived 2015! What a roller coaster. For the most part, it has been a blessed time of personal growth and achievement. I always take the good with the bad. And if I can walk away having made the best of a situation or learned from it – I’m happy!

The most exciting thing was being chosen as one of Mangwanani African Spa’s brand ambassadors in August. I have had great fun being part of their family. The role has enabled me to meet some amazing people, and become more confident and dedicated in my abilities. Yes, I have been spoiled with the most incredible spa treatments! Thank you so much! There are still a few more months left of our partnership. I look forward to tapping into my creativity and adding value wherever possible.

Above all else, my family and friends are in good health. What more can I ask for. Two more sleeps…and that’s it guys! May 2016 be a year of absolute joy and abundance for you all. Be safe.

Love always.

Kashiefa

xoxo

 

 

 

 

 

10 Things I would Say To My Younger Self

As a creative…when I feel like this…I write. It is my means of expression when thoughts get too loud. My ‘right brain’ has little chance of play chained to a desk in an air- conditioned office all day. This is fact. And very often people don’t like to own up to it because hey, we need to make a living. But today was just one of those days when I longed to be free to explore what it is I am destined to do with my life. I find it contrived to nod along in agreement to something that makes my soul feel uncomfortable. So oftentimes, my silence is frowned upon.

After a cool shower (and fancy Elizabeth Arden face mask), there are a few things I wish I could tell my lets say…16 year old self :-) :

1. Take your time growing up.

2. Choose a career based on your passion, not what you believe will make more money.

3. It is okay to say no.

4. You are individually talented.

5. Make travel part of your budget.

6. Love unselfishly…but put yourself first.

7. Always speak your mind, without fear of judgement.

8. Know that you more than enough.

9.  Stop making excuses.

10. Your natural hair colour is actually beautiful!

 

Here’s to summer holidays. And taking the time to sculpt your dreams.

xoxo

 

A new year – a better you.

Happy 2015 everyone. I hope it brings much success, peace and prosperity.

I’m not one for new years resolutions…too much pressure! However, I’m all for it being a brand new chance to re-evaluate your current state of being. Last year was a trying time for me. I really battled to find happiness within myself. But there comes a point when you have to take responsibility and pull yourself together. There is too much I need to do. We all have God given talents. Why waste it?

December has always been my favourite time of year. It’s filled with joy, love and festivity. January though…not so much. I have heard one too many stories of couples parting ways, and more disturbingly – domestic violence. I don’t know what it is like to be caught up in an abusive relationship. Can only imagine the trauma. But ladies…if your man disrespects and beats you once, that is enough! Why would you go back for more? Especially if there are children involved? I know of someone in a similar situation, and her response is, ‘But I love him’.

No. Love does not hurt. Love does not make you or your children feel worthless and unwanted. I do realize people are stuck in very difficult situations, but there is always a way out. Stand up and be a soldier. Women underestimate their ability to survive on their own. We all want to be inlove. At what cost though?

I promise that there are still proper and chivalrous men out there. Men who don’t feel the need to physically or emotionally abuse a woman to prove their masculinity. Don’t give up on the idea of true love. Start realizing your worth. Let go of anything or anyone who no longer benefits your wellbeing.

xoxo